WEEK 7 (2): Dare To Lead - Sharing something personal, becoming vulnerable

 

  1. Dare to Lead
    Complete the following sentences and respond: 

    1. When I share something personal and vulnerable, and I really feel understood, it feels great because these are moments in which you need to feel empathy and that you are not alone.

    2. When I share something personal and vulnerable, and I don’t feel as if anyone understands, I feel lonely because these are times to hear a different view, times to feel people care to make you feel important -because you are not feeling that way. 

    3. When I share something personal and vulnerable, I like the person listening to (ideal empathetic response): 

Select all that apply
_✔__ Make eye contact
___Look away so I don’t feel so self-conscious
___Reach out to hug me
___Give me my space
___Respond right away
_✔__Just listen and stay quiet
_✔__ ask me questions to make me think (add your own)

When someone shares something painful and personal with me, I:
Select all that apply.
___Worry about saying the wrong thing
_✔__Want to say something really comforting
___Get nervous
_✔__Worry about not feeling anything
___Don’t know what to do if I really don’t want to know
___Want to fix it
_✔__ listen carefully and stay quiet analyzing the situation (add your own)

As you think about the above, what have you learned about the way you show empathy (from the above options)?
What empathy skills would you like to practice more and why? Remember that Brené Brown identifies 5 empathy skills in her book (starting on p. 143): 

    1. Perspective taking 

    2. Be non judgmental

    3. Understand another person’s feelings

    4. Communicate your understanding of that person’s feelings 

    5. Mindfulness


I think I have basically confirmed what I have done or at least tried to do when in situations like the ones described above. The problem has been that even when I sort of knew, I perhaps haven’t been able to empathize the way I should. In my life, in my family, in my work. Some events in life made me believe at some point that you can manage to sort out every difficulty and that just the fact that you focus could make you overcome problems.  


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